BDSM punishments are a key component in dominant/submissive relationships. Dominants usually inflict punishment to correct unwanted behaviour. The following BDSM punishment ideas are worth considering next time your submissive steps out of line.
Spanking
Spanking is one of the most common forms of BDSM punishment, even though it can be extremely gratifying too. To ensure that your submissive recognises spanking in this context as a punishment, you need to determine what your submissive likes and doesn’t like. For example, they might love being spanked with a paddle, but hate being spanked with a cane. If so, this Bondage Boutique Advanced Extra Long Suede Flogger is the perfect cane to add some extra sting to your punishment. To make this punishment even more intolerable for your submissive, make them count out the spankings out loud.
Humiliation
Humiliation can be an effective form of punishment because it transcends the physical. Some of the most common forms of humiliation are:
- Giving your submissive a time out
- Grounding your submissive like a child
- Making your submissive write lines
- Forcing your submissive to wear an embarrassing costume
- Cutting your submissive’s hair
- Getting your submissive to kneel down for a long period of time
- Making your face the wall
- Making your submissive do a wall sit
Figging
Today, figging is a fetish kink. However, back in Ancient times, the Greeks used it as a form of punishment. In figging, the dominant inserts a piece of ginger into the vagina or anus of the submissive. The feeling of the ginger seeping its essential oils directly onto the sensitive skin can be an intense punishment meant to restrict people’s movements. To ensure that the piece of ginger can easily be retrieved afterwards, make sure that that ginger is wider at the base than the tip (like a butt plug), and hold onto it tightly once inserted.
Tickle torture
Tickle torture used to be used in the Middle Ages to interrogate criminals. However, it’s just as effective for use when punishing naughty submissives. All you need to do is tie your submissive up using bondage rope so that they are completely immobile. Use handcuffs, or cables, instead if the submissive hates them more. Tickle your submissive anywhere that makes them squirm. Genitals are typically the most sensitive part of the body. However, you can also tickle your sub’s feet, hands, and armpits too. The tickling can be performed with hands or feathers.
Chores
Nobody likes doing chores. Your submissive won’t like doing them either. Speak to your submissive about the chores they hate, and then punish them by forcing them to do them in front of you. This form of punishment works best if your play takes place in a home environment. However, in a dungeon or hotel you can get extremely creative with a feather duster or some rubber gloves. If your sub actually joys doing chores, then make it more challenging for them. Try tying one hand behind their back, or making them wear a butt plug.
Foot whipping
There is a high contraction of nerve endings in the feet which makes them extremely sensitive. To effectively punish your submissive with foot whipping you need to ensure that they are securely bound. Use a stick to strike the sole of your submissive’s feet, and repeat this motion over and over again increasing the intensity each time.
Public discipline
Public play is a fetish, but public discipline is a form of punishment. Anything done publicly could end up on the internet so it’s extremely important to make sure that both sides are aware of the risk. Once something is shared online it can never be erased. However public discipline has the added benefit of humiliation when there is an audience. Some examples include making your submissive wear a sign in public with an apology, or making your submissive go out in public wearing an embarrassing piece of clothing or footwear.
Ignore them
All of the BDSM punishments listed so far have required action. But sometimes, inaction can be just as devastating. If your submissive has been particularly bad you could try ignoring them. Ignore their pleas for forgiveness. Ignore their promises never to do it again. Ignore them if they cry. Essentially, you want to ignore them until you, the dominant, feel like they have learnt their lesson, or until the sub utters the safe word. We only recommend this form of punishment for experienced doms as it can cause distress for the submissive if handled ineffectively.
Erotic electrostimulation
Erotic electrostimulation (E-stim) is where the dominant applies mild electrical currents to areas of the body for the purpose of sexual stimulation. To do this properly, it’s important to use high quality toys. There is a wide range of toys available from electrical nipple clamps to urethral dilators and beyond! Therefore we highly recommend doing your research before committing to this form of punishment. We 100% absolutely do not advise punishing a submissive with erotic electrostimulation if they have any electric devices implanted within their body. The most common device would be a pacemaker.
Forniphilia
Forniphilia or human furniture, is a more extreme form of BDSM punishment. Essentially, this is where the submissive is bound in such a way that they resemble a piece of furniture. Chairs and tables tend to inspire most bondage practitioners so that the submissive can be sat on, or used as a footrest. As it can take a while to bind somebody in this way, the dominant usually requires the submissive to remain still in their position for several hours.
Chastity devices
Denying your errant partner the right to have sex or masturbate can be one of the most powerful ways to punish your submissive. It puts the dominant entirely in control. There are two types of chastity devices – belts, and cages. To punish a submissive you could opt for a full chastity belt. Belts are typically made out of leather or metal. Leather tends to be for shorter term play, while metal is for longer term play. For submissive men, chastity cages are an extra alternative option. You could make your sub alternate between the two. There are a range of chastity cages available but our favourite is the CB-6000 Designer Chrome Male Chastity Cage Kit. It’s very sexy.
Food
Any food hated by the submissive can be used, providing the hatred is not down to ethical objections e.g. meat and fish. If you’re planning to experiment with food, you can force your submissive to eat brussel sprouts if they hate them. Then work your way up to more gruesome items. We advise against using chilli’s because if you forget to wash your hands in the heat of the moment…
Gagging
If you’re submissive is a chatty patty with an answer for everything, then shut them up with a ball gag. The Bondara Mouth Breather Black Faux Leather Ball Gag is perfect for beginners and experienced bondage players alike. The vented ball gag allows the sub to breathe through the small holes while remaining unable to speak.
