Pegging is a mutually enjoyable experience that all couples should try. Want to add more fun in the bedroom? Try pegging. Want to show your man what it’s like to be penetrated? Try pegging. Bored of using solo toys? Try pegging! There isn’t a right or wrong way to peg. However, if you’re not sure how to get started, then read this beginner’s guide.
Pegging FAQs
What is pegging?
Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man using a strap-on dildo. Pegging is sometimes referred to as ‘reverse anal sex’.
What is a strap-on?
A strap-on is a two-piece sex toy that includes a dildo. Harness strap-ons are the most common type of strap on. Harness strap-ons feature a wrap around harness which is pulled onto a woman’s waist. At the front, there is usually an O shaped hole to attach a dildo. However, there are a variety of different harness styles including G-string harnesses and women’s boxer brief underwear harnesses. For those who aren’t a fan of harnesses, it’s possible to buy strapless strap-ons for pegging.
How common is pegging?
Recent data from Lovehoney showed that only 10% of women in the UK had tried pegging with a partner. However, we expect that as heterosexual men become more open about their sexual preferences, and start seriously considering anal play, this number will increase.
Why do men like pegging?
Most men who have tried pegging thoroughly enjoy it. Biology means that it’s pretty difficult not to! The male G-spot aka the prostate is located in the rear between the penis, bladder, and rectum. This means that any anal stimulation can result in extreme pleasure. For men, the prostate stimulation can be so pleasurable it leads to hands-free orgasms.
From a psychological perspective, Gary Wood, author of ‘The Psychology of Gender’ argues that pegging is a transfer of power. This transfer of power enhances the enjoyment. When a man opens himself up to pegging he’s consciously choosing to give up his ‘power’ in exchange for receiving pleasure.
Why do women like pegging?
Pegging can be very empowering for women. Relationship experts believe that it can increase trust in a relationship, as it forces the man to be vulnerable. It can also increase the level of appreciation from the male partner in the relationship as he will be able to understand what anal sex is like (when on the receiving end).
How to prepare for pegging
Communication is key
It’s important to communicate with your partner before you start pegging. Firstly you need to make sure that both sides are on board. If one of you wants to try pegging but the other doesn’t then you should not proceed. It’s also worth considering why your partner would like to try pegging. Are they feeling unfulfilled in the bedroom? Could they be bisexual? Are they just looking to try something new?
Whilst pegging, and after pegging, don’t stop communicating. If your partner has had enough, don’t force them to continue. And if, after their first time trying pegging they decide they do not want to do it again, don’t pressure them into it again.
Build him up to it
For most heterosexual men, their sexual experiences are limited to penetrating, rather than being penetrated. This means that most men can’t just take a 5 inch dildo in their butt straight away. It’s highly likely that you partner will need to start anal training first. We recommend starting with fingers before moving onto small toys.
Find a strap-on together
By finding a strap-on together, you can add to the anticipation and excitement. Set aside 20 minutes one evening to browse a sex toy website. Then choose a strap-on that you both like the look of.
Use lots of lubricant
Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. This means that adding lubricant to any toy or finger before insertion is really important. It can massively improve the overall experience. Remember, there’s no such thing as too much lube! As most strap-on toys are made out of silicone we recommend buying a water-based lubricant. Using a silicone based lubricant on a silicone toy can reduce longevity.
Safety and hygiene
After every single use, your sex toys must be cleaned. This is very important when you are switching from anal to vaginal play and vice versa. Using a specialist sex toy cleaner is recommended. But you can also use warm soapy water, a clean soapy cloth, or just put them in the dishwasher.
Best pegging strap-ons for beginners
If you’re short on time, and just want to get straight down to business, then take a look at these three Lovehoney strap-ons. They are appropriately sized and reasonably priced!
Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit
The Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit comes with a five-inch pegging dildo. This is a good size for men who have never tried anal play before. The dildo is made of smooth silicone for easy entry once lubricated. The harness can be adjusted to fit, and the interchangeable O-rings, mean that it’s possible to attach bigger, wider, or longer dildo’s as your man becomes more experienced.
Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Realistic Feel Strap-On Starter Set
This Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Strap-On Starter Set is widely regarded as one of the best strap-ons available. This particular strap-on has been specially designed for beginners. The Vac-U-Lock Starter Set includes 3 realistic UltraSKYN dildo’s, Doc Johnson Natural Sex Toy Cleaner and UltraSKYN Refresh Powder to properly and hygienically maintain your sex toys. The fact that you get all of this included in the price makes the starter set excellent value for money.
BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Dildos
The BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit is perfect for first-timers. Both pink jelly dildo’s are firm with some flex. One is 6-inches long, whilst the other is a more challenging 8-inches long. The flared bases on both dildo’s mean that they can be used separately for anal play too.
Best pegging sex positions
Doggy Style pegging
Anal sex often works better if the receiver’s hips are higher than their shoulders, which is what makes this position so good for pegging. Grab your partner’s hips whilst you thrust, or let them take the lead and push back into you. The key is to make sure you point the curve of the dildo downwards towards his navel in order to massage his prostate.
Missionary pegging
Missionary is one of the most intimate sex positions. You can look into your partner’s eyes as you screw them – for a change. To try missionary sex with your partner he will need lie on his back and bring his knees up towards his chest and open his legs to create a V shape. This will help relax his pelvic muscles, and allow you insert the dildo more easily. You can also prop his head up with a couple of pillows for better prostate stimulation.
Spooning pegging
Spooning is a great position for men who are not comfortable getting on all fours. Have your partner lie on his side, with his knees raised at a right angle to his body. Slide in behind him so that you can be the big spoon. Slowly insert your dildo, but allow him to control the depth. He should get more and more comfortable by the minute!
Reverse cowgirl pegging
Reverse cowgirl is an extremely popular sex position. You can let your partner call it the reverse cowboy once he’s tried it if it makes him feel more masculine! The penetrator should lie on their back, whilst their boyfriend or husband mounts them. This position allows him to take penetration at his own pace. The penetrator can then choose to intensify their partner’s pleasure by mastrubating their partner, or using a penis vibrator along his penis shaft.
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