Fisting can be extremely fulfilling for the fister and fistee. If you would like to learn more about fisting, and start training to accept a hand, then read this blog post. We explain what fisting is, how to play safely, and recommend the best sex toys to train with.
Anal Fisting FAQs
What is anal fisting?
Anal fisting is a sexual act where a gay man inserts one hand, two hands or a foot, into another mans anus. The most common body part used when fisting is a hand.
How does the fist fit in the anus?
Contrary to popular belief, the hand is rarely ever clenched into a fist upon entry. Instead, the fister usually starts with his fingers, then inserts his whole hand, and then once firmly inside the fistee – is able to clench and repeat.
Why do gay men enjoy fisting?
Not all gay men enjoy fisting. But for those who do, it’s because of the sexual gratification. Many men enjoy the full feeling that can only be experienced by having the hand of another man inside. This feeling is unlike any other.
How do you know when you’re ready for fisting?
The only way to know when you’re ready for fisting is to first try using anal stretching toys which have a similar circumference to a hand. By being relaxed and trying wide sex toys at home, you will slowly be able to build your confidence for fisting.
How long does it take an anal sex newbie to get fisted?
It varies from person to person. It took gay porn star Devin Franco two years to get ready for fisting! It ultimately depends on how quickly you can train your ass to open up.
Is fisting painful?
Fisting can be painful if the fistee is not relaxed. Fisting can also be painful if the fister is inexperienced. However fisting does have to be painful. Some gay men choose to get fisted every week because they enjoy it.
What is the silent duck?
The fisting start-up hand position is called the Silent Duck. This beak shaped position is where the fister shapes their hand into a V. The position allows the fingers to enter the anus, anal canal, and rectum first, before the hand, wrist and arm.
Can fisting cause incontinence?
Fisting does not cause incontinence. The best way to make sure that you do not injure yourself or your body is to practice at home on your own using a sex toy. The more relaxed your anal muscles are, the safer you will be.
Can fisting cause bleeding?
Fisting can cause bleeding. If the fister notices that the lubricant being used is turning pink it is advised that he goes slower. If the lubricant becomes a dark shade of pink or red, then the fister needs to stop immediately. It’s likely that you have been injured and need to go to the hospital.
Does the anus go back to normal after fisting?
After a fist session, the ass does not always close immediately. But after a little while, it closes just like any other ass. The anus is a muscle which can expand and contract with relaxation and lubrication.
Is it possible to be fisted while on drugs?
It is possible to be fisted whilst on drugs or intoxicated. Many gay men first try fisting during a chemsex session or at specialist club nights. However we believe that if you’re going to be fisted, you should be sober. Drugs and alcohol can dull your pain receptors. This can make fisting dangerous because you won’t feel any pain until the following morning and by that point any damage could be harder to reverse.
There is also the safety element to take into account too. The relationship between a fister and fistee is based on trust. You want to make sure you know who will be fisting you and trust that they will have your best interests in mind.
What are the biggest risks when fisting?
Peritonitis is the biggest risk when it comes to fisting. This occurs when the intestinal wall is ruptured. The consequences can quite literally be deadly. Some of the symptoms are cramps, blood loss and a fever.
Another risk is STDs if the fister is not wearing gloves. HIV, Hepatitis B and Hepatitis C are common diseases which can be transmitted when fisting without gloves.
Should the fistee douche before being fisted?
The fistee should definitely douche before being fisted. This is because feces can irritate the sphincter. As the fist of the fister goes extremely deep a standard bulb douche will be insufficient. Any budding fistee needs to invest in a Shower Shot. The douches resemble a hose pipe but they are essential for a deep and thorough clean.
6 tips to help you prepare for anal fisting
Learn to relax the anal sphincter
A skilled fisting bottom will be able to relax their anal sphincter. If you have been bottoming for several years this will be fairly easy. But if you’re new to anal sex, or tend to top, this may be new for you.
To practice relaxing the anal sphincter try to play with your anus using your fingers and smaller sex toys. This will help you get more comfortable with anal play. Then you can slowly build you way up to fisting by using bigger sex toys.
Buy an inflatable butt plug
The most useful thing that you can do to prepare for anal fisting is to buy an inflatable butt plug. An inflatable butt plug can be used by every man whether they’ve never used a sex toy or not. Some inflatable butt plugs can be inflated to a mouth watering 20 inches in circumference! If you can handle a toy with a circumference of 20 inches then you can certainly handle a man’s hand. We love the Cock Locker Ace of Spades Extra Large Inflatable Butt Plug.
If you’re not a fan of inflatable butt plugs, the next best thing would be the Doc Johnson TitanMen Intimidator Anal Plug. Offering an astonishing 11 inches in circumference, the ridges and tapered tip are specially designed for men who want to experience deep intense pleasure.
Find an experienced fister
An experienced fister will probably have experience fisting bottoms of various skill levels and will know how to communicate and care for the fistee better than a rank amateur. Always be sure to be completely honest about your experience level and communicate throughout the whole process to help ensure a smoother fisting experience.
A skilled fister knows to be gentle. An experienced fister will also know that a significant amount of lubricant will be required. This will ensure that the fistee is not injured and can fully enjoy the experience.
Buy latex gloves for fisting
Any fister should always use latex gloves (the thin disposable ones are better). This helps prevent the fistee and fister from contracting HIV or Hepatitis B and C through anal fissures or cuts on the hand/arm.
If the fister chooses to avoid gloves, it’s important that he trims and files his nails.
Choose the right lube
Lube is needed, for sure. Choose a water based one or silicone because an oil based lubricant will break down the latex in the gloves. Our top picks are:
- Bondara Essentials Fisting Lubricant
- FIST IT Artificial Sperm Lube
- SPIT® Hybrid (Water & Silicone Based) Lubricant
- BOY BUTTER H2O Formula Lube
Play some music
Fisting can be loud. Between your groans and his groans your neighbours may have some noise complaints. Not only will playing music mask the sounds of your pleasure, it will also help get you in the mood.
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