Foreplay deserves more respect. It’s often forgotten about, or simply brushed to the side. But gay foreplay should be enjoyed. It can be just as pleasurable as penetrative sex. And, did you know that you can resume foreplay after sex too? For mind blowing gay foreplay tips and tricks read this blog post!
Give him a massage
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you may be looking for ways to spice up your love life. A romantic massage can be a fantastic way to do this. For a good massage all that you really need is massage oil. We recommend the highly affordable range of Lovehoney massage oils. Most of the oils are scented and smell divine. However, household oils can be used too. Coconut oil, olive oil and jojoba oil are three of the most common household oils that couples use for massages.
Place an old sheet on the floor or bed, heat the oil in a microwave, then straddle him whilst he lies flat on his stomach. Your penis should be pressed against his buttocks. Use the heel of your hand to make continuous fluid movements around his shoulders, and down his back initially. Make sure you are moving up and down the full length of the muscles. Spend at least two minutes massaging each area of his body from head to toe.
Get really close to touching his penis and testicles and bum, without actually touching them. Instead, focus on stimulating other erogenous parts of the body such as the inner thigh, and sides of the chest. By getting close, but never going all the way, you’ll drive him crazy. He’ll be desperate to orgasm when the time comes.
Use your tongue when kissing him
Passionate kisses can make a man wild. Initially, you can just focus on kissing his lips softly and gently, before starting to get a bit more aggressive. This will prove to him that you find him attractive and can’t control yourself.
When kissing his lips, don’t forget about your tongue. The tongue is a brilliant tool which can be used to turn up the heat. When both of your tongues are touching, try the ‘swirling’ technique. This is where you roll the tip of your tongue around the tip of your partner’s tongue in a circular motion. It is a similar motion to the motion that you may choose to perform during oral sex or rimming. Another tongue trick worth trying is tongue sucking. When his tongue is in your mouth, try sucking on it gently with your mouth before realising their tongue. If he enjoys this, we will allow you to do this over and over again.
And kissing doesn’t need to be strictly mouth-to-mouth. Try planting kisses on his neck, chest and just below the ear lobe too.
Play with his nipples
The nipples are among the most sensitive parts of the body. Some men can even orgasm from nipple play alone. If your partner’s nipples are particularly sensitive then this should be explored. Kiss his chest and work your way to his nipples. Run your tongue over his nipples, and move your tongue around in a circular motion. Gently nibble and pull on them with your teeth. To make this more intense, you can try holding an ice cube in your mouth as you rub it on his nipples. Level up and make it kinky but purchasing nipple clamps.
Rimming or ‘eating ass’ can be a great way to pleasure your man before sex, especially if he will be bottoming because it can help relax the anus. We do not recommend rimming a hook up. If you are the one performing the act, then make sure that you spend time doing a good job. You can’t just lick the hole a few times then stop. Try poking in your tongue, try licking your partner from their perineum all the way to the hole in one continuous motion, and try making out with their hole. This alone will be enough to drive him crazy, but if you have facial hair or stubble the feeling will be even more intense.
Use sex toys
There are lots of lots of sex toys available online and in store. We compare prices from a range of reputable brands including Lovehoney, Ann Summers and Bondara. For great gay foreplay before sex, we recommend using butt plugs, prostate massagers and dildos. There is no need to use all three during one night. However it could be a good idea to start building a collection by buying a few starter toys. If you our your partner is new to anal play, or anal training, start by buying one small but plug. Then you can work your way up by building an average sized dildo, and then maybe a vibrating prostate massager. Tops and bottoms will be able to use these toys together, or in turn (after cleaning). The one rule worth mentioning is that silicone toys (the most common sex toy material) must not be used with a silicone-based lubricant.
Watch porn together
Watching porn with your boyfriend or husband can be a good way to discover new sex positions and techniques. After watching porn with him for a few minutes it’s highly likely that you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other. However, you don’t have to have sex while watching porn. You can mutually masturbate or finger each other, before advancing onto sex later on.
Try temperature play
Experimenting with hot things, and cold things can be a good way to add an extra layer of fun to gay foreplay. For example, you could fill a glass with ice and cold water to cool down your tongue before kissing your partner and licking their nibbles. Another idea, is to insert an ice cube into your mouth before performing oral sex.
Glass dildos can also be extremely useful in temperature play. Dildo’s made out of glass are designed to withstand hot and cold temperatures, they are also good at retaining heat. By heating a glass dildo, it will feel more lifelike when pushed inside. It can be heated by being submerged in a bowl of warm water. To cool a glass dildo down simply submerge it in a bowl of cold water with ice cubes.
Give him a blowjob
Oral sex, or blowjobs do not have to lead to an orgasm. They can be the starter, before the main course. Take things slow and steady by starting with the head of the penis. Hold it in your mouth and suck on the head. Move your tongue in circular motions too. Then you can start taking more of his penis into your mouth and using your hands up and down his shaft. Don’t forget to give attention to the scrotum! To make this sexier, there’s no harm in trying to add some garnishes to your meal. Cool melted chocolate or whipped cream can be great ways to improve the experience for the both of you. As an alternative, flavoured lube could be used.
Play a sex game together
Playing a sex game with your boyfriend or husband is a good way to spice things up in the bedroom during foreplay. The best thing about playing sex games, is that they take away the predictabilly of foreplay. You never know what you will be asked to do next. The Oh! Oral Sex Dice Game is a good game to play before you start to properly get into the swing of things. Essentially the rules of the game are to roll the three dice in the pack at the same time. The first dice will tell you what to do, the second dice will tell you where to do it in the house, whilst the third dice tells you how long to do it for. As there are so many different scenarios you can take it in turns.
Tie him up
Restraining your partner can shift the power dynamic in the bedroom. You can tie your partner up using silk, rope or handcuffs. When they are tied up, you may want to start teasing them. You could perform a sexy strip tease in front of him. Or, alternatively you could arouse him by using feathers on sensitive parts of the body, using toys, or running an ice cube down his naked body. To make this more intense you can blindfold him.